People may say no one ever died of a broken heart, but when you're
suffering from one, it sure doesn't feel that way--at least initially. Falling in love is about you It's never about the other
person. You always will still have the ability to fall in love. Nobody can ever take
that away from you. nobody can ever doom your future, or be the only one you ever love. its exactly like friendships. They come and go, but just cause a friendship does not work out does not mean you are doomed and meant to be a social outcast and loner for the rest of your very (at the moment) miserable life.
It s ok to feel like your world is falling apart, it is alright to allow yourself to grief. and to help you cope with it, here are a few tips you can do on the first 2 days of a breakup/loss. Have a care read it, it may change your perspective.
And for the long run:
Love,
A.
It s ok to feel like your world is falling apart, it is alright to allow yourself to grief. and to help you cope with it, here are a few tips you can do on the first 2 days of a breakup/loss. Have a care read it, it may change your perspective.
Instructions
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Days 1 and 2
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Breathe. All you can do is survive this first and difficult
day. Take one day at a time. Give yourself permission to mourn. Call in sick at work, sleep all day, eat too much ice cream, sob.
- 2 Congratulate yourself for being human: It is only when you open yourself to love that your heart can break. Develop and repeat a helpful mantra to get you through the initial shock and pain, such as "This too shall pass" or "I will survive.
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1
Breathe. All you can do is survive this first and difficult
day. Take one day at a time. Give
And for the long run:
- Do something for someone else. Volunteer in a soup kitchen, a hospital, a nursing home, or for any other organization that you support. "Giving your time to help someone else helps take your mind off your troubles and makes you feel really good at the end of the day," says Allen.
- Pamper yourself with a massage, manicure, fresh flowers, or a weekend getaway to a place you've never explored. (This is not the time to trip down memory lane and stay in that charming B&B you and your ex-beloved once visited!)
- Adopt a pet. "Pets give you an unlimited amount of attention and love," says Allen. If you live in an apartment and can't own a pet, then pet sit for friends or volunteer at a local SPCA.
- Keep a journal and write down what you learned from the relationship, what your role in the breakup was (even if you're convinced you were blameless, chances are, you weren't -- at least not completely). Write down what you'll avoid in your next relationship. "This should give you a good idea of what your non-negotiables are," Allen says.
- Spend time with friends and family who will nurture you and keep you from feeling lonely.
- Learn something new. Take a class. Start a hobby.
- Think of this time as a new chapter in your life, says Allen. "Explore your passions and make a plan to accomplish a goal ... start a business, go back to school, write a book."
Love,
A.
